15 Things Sex Therapists Really Want You To Know

1. Sex therapy isn’t for learning new positions or hot sex tips.

“Some people think sex therapy involves getting naked, having sex, being touched,” says Kerner. “But certainly it’s talk therapy.” A sex therapist is different from a sex coach, sex educator, or sex surrogate. For starters, they won’t be touching you, and they probably won’t tell you how to give a better blow job.

It’s actually a type of psychotherapy that can treat sexual and relationship issues from a biopsychosocial perspective. It’s usually problem-focused, where a therapist considers all the factors that might be at play in a situation. “Sex therapy is understanding what the root of the problem is,” says Fleming.

2. Single people can go to sex therapy, too.

Really, it’s not that weird. Engler has seen patients who want to address patterns in their sex lives — like feeling numb during hookups, losing interest after they …

Sex Therapy: What You Should Know

Sex therapy is a type of talk therapy that’s designed to help individuals and couples address medical, psychological, personal, or interpersonal factors impacting sexual satisfaction.

The goal of sex therapy is to help people move past physical and emotional challenges to have a satisfying relationship and pleasurable sex life.

Sexual dysfunction is common. In fact, 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men report experiencing some type of sexual dysfunction during their lifetimes. These dysfunctions may include:

  1. erectile dysfunction
  2. low libido
  3. lack of interest
  4. premature ejaculation
  5. low confidence
  6. lack of response to sexual stimulus
  7. inability to reach orgasm
  8. excessive libido
  9. inability to control sexual behavior
  10. distressing sexual thoughts
  11. unwanted sexual fetishes

A fulfilling sex life is healthy and natural. Physical and emotional intimacy are essential parts of your well-being. When sexual dysfunction occurs, having that fulfilling sex life can be difficult.

Sex therapy may be able to help you …

Learning About Sexuality

Sexuality refers to habits and preferences in terms of sexual behavior. People express it in many ways. Sometimes, people feel confusion or distress about their sexuality or sexual identity. They may seek help from a therapist.

UNDERSTANDING HUMAN SEXUALITY

Human sexuality is complex and personal. It entails more than just sexual activity. A person’s own definitions of sexuality may include:

  • Feelings of attraction toward others
  • Intimacy with others
  • Feelings related to body image
  • Personal values

People express and experience sexuality in many ways. Some ways people express their sexuality include:

  • Thoughts
  • Fantasies
  • Behaviors
  • Roles
  • Through a relationship

Gender, orientation, and identity can influence sexuality. But these are distinct concepts. Sex refers to the sex determined at birth. Physical anatomy determines sex at birth. Gender refers to someone’s knowledge of being male, female, non-binary, or other gender. Sexuality is also different from sexual orientation. Orientation refers to the type of …